Sarah D. Shearer

I can’t believe my baby is almost 2 months old! Time is absolutely flying by. Nearly every day with her is perfect. We’ve had a few moments where I’m at my wits end trying to comfort her for some unexplainable turmoil she is experiencing, but other than that life with a daughter is pure bliss. Shearer bliss, actually. 😆

I’ve noticed a theme on my journey to a family. When I was single and desiring a husband, everyone told me …just you wait…. to enjoy being single while it lasted before I was chained down to a man forever. But then Lucas came along and life with him was exponentially better than life without him and I wondered if they were right.

Then we got married and everyone said just you wait, marriage is hard. don’t expect it to all be sunflowers and roses. The honeymoon phase will end and then you will be settling in to the real stuff of marriage. But we got married and life just continued to get better.

Then we got pregnant immediately and everyone said just you wait. You should’ve enjoyed being married first, now you’re gonna have a baby and you’ll never be able to do anything. Goodbye sleep, goodbye spontaneous fun in your marriage.

But we even enjoyed my pregnancy together!

Then, we had a baby and I began to wonder if this is when the ball was going to drop. It seemed this transition made the most sense for things to go downhill. Sleep deprivation, more responsibility, heightened emotions, financial burdens.

But again, I was wrong. Life with a baby is wonderful. Everything she does is magic. Every smile, every coo, every time she grabs my hair and every time I wake to her a little noises in the night it is all wonder and magic and miracles.

I’m beginning to think that we shouldn’t listen to “those people.”

While I was pregnant I read a book and it was talking about the childbirth experience. They said basically if you look for pain you will find it and if you expect to have a painful childbirth that’s exactly what you’re going to have. I think the same holds true for family. If you expect it to be difficult and hard you’re going to get exactly what you want. Yes there are challenges in marriage it and there are challenges in childbirth and there are challenges in raising a family, but the Lord created all of those things and he created them all to be beautiful.

Sometimes things don’t go the way we plan and hardships arise and I think those break the Lord‘s heart as much as they break ours, if not more. But the Institute of marriage and the blessing of children are gifts he has given us to make our lives more abundant and more joyful and then we could have had on our own.

With everything I see on social media, I am convinced that the enemy is out to get young women and convince them that having children is something to dread. I think he is afraid of healthy families and he has sold us this load of bull that life is better when you’re single and if you decide to get married it’s better if it’s just the two of you. Multiplication is the opposite of what he wants. He would rather have division and lack. Adding more people to the world who will love and serve the Lord is exactly the opposite of what the enemy wants and so he’s going to try to sell it in a package that looks appealing. He won’t come right out and say don’t have kids, he will just appeal to our selfish nature and entice us with the easy life we think we have without children, without a husband and a home to care for.

Well, I’m not putting up with it anymore. If you are a young woman who does not have children yet but has desired it at some point in your life or even desired marriage and you are unmarried, I have news for you.

It’s good.

It’s good, it’s worth waiting for the right one, and it’s good right off the bat. Devoting yourself to your family is the most fulfilling thing you could do, and the best career in the world can’t compare to it.

Don’t listen to the naysayers. They are miserable already so all these things just serve to increase their disappointment in life.

Pregnancy was great, even postpartum has been a blessing to me and I’m still attracted to my husband, what do you know😂😂.

Maybe I’ve just been blessed, and I know this is definitely part of it. God has given us a really easy baby. But I think only part of it is circumstantial. I think the rest of it is a perspective that chooses to see the goodness of God in every circumstance rather than looking for hardship around every corner. You will get exactly what you want out of life. Jesus came that we could have life and have life more abundantly and I’m not settling for anything less and I don’t want you to either.

If your dream is to be a wife and a mom, this is a noble dream. Pray into it and pursue it and hold tight to the fact that Jesus will give us the desires of our heart as we delight in him. and even if that’s not the desire of your heart and maybe the Lord has you in a different season, look for his goodness where you are! His yoke is easy and his burden is light. His plans for you are good whatever they may be. I’m so thankful for him.